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Tonsillectomy Surgery Costs Her Life

Asma al-Mohattwari

 

The story was described in detail to National Yemen by Aisha’s mother and her son.

“When poverty enters the door.. Love flies out of the window” people use this idiom when poverty and destitution controls the marital life. What was unexpected is when a man, in a moment of despair, escapes all his responsibilities and duties by killing his loved one.

She did not know that the cost of tonsillectomy would be her life. They were poor but very happy; Aisha and her husband Ahmed lived in a very small house in the Mashen village. They had their first child, a boy that brought them so much joy. Years passed and they had three beautiful daughters. Five months ago she gave birth to her last daughter. She led a comfortable life with her husband and children. Happiness started to vanish when Aisha suffered from tonsillitis. She told her husband that she should travel to Sana’a to get the medicine and treatment she needed. Since he was poor and had no income, Ahmed begun to create problems so that she is forced to leave to her parents house. Actually, Aisha has nothing but to only call her brothers to give her the medical attention that she deserves.

She traveled to Sana’a with her brothers and she had a tonsillectomy operation. The day to leave Sana’a came and before leaving her brothers told her to “tell your husband the expenses of the treatment cost us YR 70,000,” she knew that her husband would take the news badly.

She returned to her village but not to her husband but to her parents’ house to continue her medicine out of troubles. Days passed so she called Ahmed to come and take her home for she missed him and her house. Her mother told her that “you were away from him for too long, you should be back with him like the good bride you are.” Aisha put henna and Naqsh on her hands, wore new clothes and prepare herself as a new bride.  Ahmed was ecstatic to see his wife, he felt as if he was a new groom again.

At night while they were speaking, she told him that the cost of the operation was YR 70,000. He kept silent and that night passed peacefully. In the morning, she woke up and while she was going to prepare breakfast, he stopped her and demanded that she “first wash my clothes.” She obeyed him and went to the laundry room in the first floor to wash the clothes in the early morning.  Everything was quiet; her son was painting in the room in front of the laundry room and daughters were still asleep. Suddenly, a sound of gunfire broke the silence and quietness of the place. Ahmed shot his wife with three bullets one in her chin, another in her heart and the last one in her abdomen. He killed her without any pity; their last years with each other couldn’t save her life or make him back away this crime.

He closed the room leaving her alone bleeding and facing death in the laundry room. He ran away to his mother’s house. At that moment, her son was astonished, with fear, he walked to that room and opened it, he found his mother surrounded with blood. With no shoes, the boy ran to his grandmother house screaming about what he saw. All the villagers knew about the incident and all were surprised “we can’t believe Ahmed killed his wife.” But that was the truth Ahmed left his children with no mother and with a criminal father. At first, Aisha’s family refused to bury “both should be buried” meaning Ahmed and Aisha. Finally they buried her and Ahmed is in prison waiting for his death sentence.

He killed all the meanings of love, humanity, mercy and tender. He forgot the one he killed was his wife, the mother of his kids and the one who endured troubles of life with him.

The only victims were their children who lost their father and mother and will live with a horrible memory. Aisha’s mother said that the criminal should be killed and she will take care of her grandchildren as if they are her own.

“Whatever the reasons, he does not have the right to kill my daughter, he should be banished,” she said.

Poverty spreading among Yemenis resulted in creating tragic situations, in which Aisha’s story was not the first. A year before a father killed his two daughters and than committed suicide.

Ebtisam Zaid, Psychological Specialist, said that family, economic, social problem, psychological pressures and the weakness of faith all can lead a man to commit a murder or suicide.

“The Living Situation is deteriorating and the social solidarity is missing. Although I can’t justify the murder but all it makes the man lose his mind and do anything to get over of his problems,” she added.

International Covenant explained the development rights that violated by poverty. In one of its laws, the international covenant gives everyone a social security on the economic, social and cultural rights. Also it states that families should be granted as much as possible of social protection and assistance, particularly for its establishment and to take care of the children responsibility.

In Yemen, poverty still occupies senior positions that reached 54.4% of the population due to the events and consequences experienced by the country during 2011, and the social insurance is a pricey sum of money (YR 2,500) in a month.

Mr. Hamed Ali, a citzen, said that if the aim of the social insurance is to meet the needs of the poor, sick people, women and prisoners families, so the government has failed in achieving this goal. “Government should reconsider the social security benefits, and increase in accordance with the life.”